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Post by admin on Sept 4, 2007 16:36:57 GMT 1
he also used to open the chocolates on the Xmas tree, eat them and reshape the paper and hang them back on got to give him 10 out of 10 for ingenuity poshx both of my husbands have this habit - must be something they teach them at school bb Rhiannon
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Post by eva on Sept 4, 2007 21:07:45 GMT 1
;D I've found an answer to the household woes........I've got a cleaner. AND he's a man! ;D He's very good at it and he doesn't expect to be praised and thanked - just paid! He's gay, of course! Just to set the cat amongst the pigeons on the men and housework front all over again!!
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Post by gwenifer on Sept 4, 2007 21:55:52 GMT 1
Yeah, that's weird isn't it when your other half disappears for an hour then comes back and says 'I've done the washing up for you' as though they had nothing to do with getting the dishes dirty............. I think this thread is, 'Can Of Worms No. 179 - open at own risk'!!!!!!
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Post by celticwolf on Sept 5, 2007 9:25:04 GMT 1
The best one was this morning. I came down for breakifast and NIck says "Although it was nice of you to do the washing up before you went out last night, can you not do it again as it wasnt to my standard!"
I mean what can i say to that? I have been doing it for nearly 6 years!
Celticwolf
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Post by admin on Sept 5, 2007 9:46:19 GMT 1
When Martin moans about how crap I am at washing clothes I remind him that he can always do it himself if he doesn't like the way I do it.
Men - can't live with them, definitely can't live without them.
Rhiannon
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Post by wyrdewood on Sept 5, 2007 10:30:27 GMT 1
My son, when he was younger, went though a stage of opening the biscuits, eating some and then turning the packet backward and replacing them in the cupboard, so it looked like they were unopened, when in fact there were three left. poshx I had a mate called Pierre who used to do that when he came round to my shared house. One time we got so annoyed we waited until he was on holiday, got into his kitchen and emptied every tin and packet, from the underneath, and put it back in the cupboards so when he came home he would get a taste of his own medicine (We put all the food in containers so as not to be wasteful). He got a bit of a shock when he came home! He still raided our cupboards after that, but at least he didn't leave the empty packets behind.
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Post by hogbear on Sept 5, 2007 11:09:06 GMT 1
My ex Phil used to buy Loo paper and those blue toilet blocks everytime we went shopping, which sounds ok but he never put the blue blocks in the loo and at one point we had a wall in cupboard full of toilet paper! he was the same with kitchen cleaner (not that he ever used it he thought buying it was sufficent)
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Post by assoki on Sept 5, 2007 14:15:04 GMT 1
I spent years with a bloke whos idea of cleaning was sticking a bit o bleach down the loo and washing up when i refused to cook cause there was nothing left to cook with (some times he would just get takeaway instead ) Now Its shared Paul is happy to have someone to help if i cook he washes and if he cooks i wash, I havent touched the hoover since i moved in ;D ;D Dont you just hate me oh yea he does all the shopping as well
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Post by merrybel on Sept 5, 2007 16:26:23 GMT 1
I'm sure he is too good to be true, Pollie! And he's lovely to go with it. Do you hire him out? Just for the housework, of course. Wouldn't swap my man for anything - he does do the washing up at the weekend, and any DIY I ask him to do. But where clothes are concerned, he is as bad as the children. I wash and iron everything and then watch it moulder away in the bedroom until he gets the hint to put it away. At least he knows where the dirty laundry goes. But the comments about the state of the television screen grate on my nerves. I happen to like dust. I find it adds atmosphere to the crap they put on. Must get the vacuum out tomorrow, though. Enough dog hair in the corners to make a coat with!!
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Post by moonsmith on Sept 5, 2007 19:18:38 GMT 1
I'm not being funny and I'm not bragging
BUT I REALLY don't understand this thread. If "he" doesn't put things for him on the list just don't buy them - or buy them for yourself. If washing doesn't go into the right place for laundry - then don't wash it. If children's rooms / clothes / belongings aren't cared for - that's not a parents problem.
I have 4 grown up children who are, and always have been, my friends. The above is exactly how they became so.
I NEVER bought designer labels [they could use their own money to buy Ripcurls, American Brass etc.over and above what I was prepared to pay. They looked after their own belongings. My one son is perfectly capable of ironing a suit [as am i] and my eldest daughter, the only one who currently owns a car, is perfectly capable of servicing it.
I'm neither clever nor cruel but I do understand the learning process.
Never never reward behaviour that you resent. [Reward = giving in, rolling your eyes, making a passive aggressive statement and then DOING THE BLOODY JOB FOR THEM]
I cannot possibly talk for others but being tough on carelessness has won me and my children happiness. All now live their own lives and I'm proud of them.
Oh - and I also tried hard to see how much I COULD allow - asked myself how important a standard really was. My sons hair falls well over his shoulders at 28. It has done so throughout his educational years - HE negotiated with his teachers not me!
Sorry for rant but I see sooooooooooooooooooooo many parents caving in to manipulative [they may well also be loving] children.
Me X [Health Warning - The history related here suited the home environment of one old fart and may not be applicable to any other family. Parenting and Partnership can seriously damage your psyche]
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Post by evadarkness on Sept 5, 2007 20:36:21 GMT 1
Although I understand the point you are trying to make moonsmith I posted the rant because it annoys me.
For example, every night I make dinner and hubby does the tea. I only have decaf because between meds, hormones and normal bitchiness the world is a safer place if I do not have caffeine.
Because he usually makes the tea I do not normally check if it is getting low. Because he is an adult (not a manipulating child) I assume he can use his eyes to see lack of tea, than his brain to register this means more tea must be bought, and finally his ability to write to note this on the list which is always there. Instead he will wander in and tell me ' there is no more decaf tea...' as if by magic it was spirited away.
I am not a push over parent, nor into playing psycho games (although he does this all the time and then denies it). I just want him to act like an equal responsible adult partner in our relationship and needed to vent a bit about some of the times he chooses not too.
As far as if we run out of the stuff only he uses because of this - that is fine. He does not learn from it from what I can see but at least it does not affect the rest of us.
ED
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Post by merrybel on Sept 6, 2007 8:20:28 GMT 1
Sorry, Pat. Think I gave you the wrong impression there. My children are, and always will be, my best friends, no matter what they do. (Obviously some criminal activities might upset me just a tad.) My comments about them were very tongue in cheek. They are minor annoyances, not home-wrecking incidents. They ARE helpful around the house - putting the washing on the line, drying up, dusting - jobs suitable for their age limit. This is how they earn their pocket money, because I don't believe in just dolling it out willey nilley. That way they have respect for the things they buy and look after them. I certainly have never bought them designer goods - we have never been able to afford them. Charity shops love me! And my thirteen year old's hair is nearly as long as mine - I fully support him in that. Their bedrooms are a disgrace, but I simply close the door. I don't have to live in it, and only intervene when it becomes a health hazzard (the eldest has two pet rats and his hygeine standards are similar to most thirteen year olds). I never give in to them - I am too stubborn. And they certainly don't manipulate me, at least not in serious things. (I also have a sense of humour.) They do eventually pick up after themselves although it takes alot of, shall we say, encouragement. (Non-violent, naturally). They are well mannered, well adjusted children who make me heart-swellingly (is that a word?) proud. I have done a damn good job with them, even if I say so myself.
Unfortunately, if a partner can't be bothered to pick up after himself, help around the house or simply makes sarcastic comments about your standards, it impacts on the rest of your life. There are only so many times you can step over a growing pile of dirty clothes in a doorway (not that my fella does that - as I said, he knows where the laundry basket is). And it is teeth-gnashingly annoying to go to the cupboard for bread and just find an empty packet. Or sit on the loo to find he has used the last piece of loo roll and just left the inner without replacing it. Especially if you have to get up and cross the room to get some more - not pleasant!!
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Post by admin on Sept 6, 2007 8:25:16 GMT 1
I put up with Martin's little foibles, because (a) I think they're cute and (b) he is so marvellous in other areas that I can forgive things like not knowing how to boil a potato, or asking for an Olympic medal everytime he washes up.
bb Rhiannon
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Post by Butterfly on Sept 6, 2007 9:12:43 GMT 1
I just like moaning!
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Post by wyrdewood on Sept 6, 2007 10:18:32 GMT 1
I was watching "The Naked Civil Servant" on television last night and there was a quote from Quentin Crisp, when challenged about his lack of housework, "I don't do housework. After 4 years I find the dust doesn't get any thicker". Sadly, most blokes would adopt that theory, if allowed, and let the side down for the rest of us blokes. I must add, that my partner and I live in a balanced state, when it comes to all things domestic, and share most jobs or compromise on those we can't.
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